For those of you who are not familiar with who I am, I just so happen to have a best friend who was born from the same egg as mine; my identical twin sister. As twins we get asked some very amusing questions, but a few questions that are consistently asked daily regarding hair are:
“Is that all your hair?” (Yes)
“Wow, your hair must be heavy, it must be hard to balance your
head” (A common misconception is that kinky afro-textured hair is heavy hen in fact it is quite the opposite. Now I am not saying it does not get a bit global warming up on the dome in the NYC heat, but our hair aesthetically is deceiving since in actuality it is light as a feather. So the answer is no)
“Do you have locs?” (No)
“Why don’t you loc your hair?” (I think locs are absolutely stunning but we prefer our hair in it’s current state)
Then my absolute favorite is “Why don’t you wear your hair down like your sister?”. My first thought is “Well it’s my prerogative, obviously I am rocking this look because I love my hair exactly how it is or I would have chosen another style long ago.”, (along with a side to side movement of my head) but instead I simply respond, “it’s just my preference”. All jokes aside, my preference not only stems from aesthetics, but the difference between the actual state of our hair. Stay with me as I breakdown the two major factors that contribute to our personal style.
I have been natural going on six years, while my twin has been natural for 11 years almost 12. The density between our hair is the same, but since my sister has been natural longer her length obviously doubles mine, though besides length, there is big difference between the density of our individual strands. Wait, didn’t I just mention density … yes, and I know it may sound redundant, but density of the strands as a whole versus the density of the individual strand is as extreme as day and night.
As you may have noticed my sister for the most part styles her hair down in a braidout, while I am constantly in loose twists updos … but why? Besides preference as previously stated, it boils down to coarse versus fine. My individual strands are extremely fine while my sister’s strands are fine, but slightly coarser than mine. This is why like a fingerprint, no two heads of hair are alike. Due to the finest of my hair when worn down, the strands are much more susceptible to tangling and matting. The degrees of coarse and fine vary immensely, just the slightest difference can dictate a regimen and style that benefits one but not another, which in my sister’s case, equips her handle more daily wear and tear from that minuscule difference.
Culled from here